Our bodies have a language of their own, and their words are not always kind. Your body language has likely become an integral part of analysing who you are and how you feel, which you might not even think about it. If that’s the case, it’s time to start understanding those.
The most common body language blunders that people make, and emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid are:
Avoiding Eye Contact
When you don’t look at someone in their eyes, it can signal deception or a lack of respect and wish to avoid.
Bad posture signals to others that you lack confidence and have poor self esteem or low energy levels.
A handshake that is not firm will signal a lack of authority and one that is too firm could make you seem overly aggressive.
This stance creates a sense of being closed off and may signal to others that you are disinterested in them or don’t buy into their message.
When you are giving a presentation, if you look down while making a point, it loses all of its power and you may look weak. In everyday interactions, it can make you look uncomfortable or self-conscious.
Angling Body Away From Others
Too much physical distance, angling the body away from the person you’re speaking with or not leaning into a conversation shows that you are uncomfortable, distrustful or disinterested in the subject.
Fidgeting And Touching Hair
Fidgeting and playing with hair or clothes can reveal an excess of energy, which signals discomfort or anxiety.
Invading Others’ Space
When you are closer than 1.5 feet away from a colleague or you treat their possessions and office space as if it were your own, it signals disrespect and that you don’t have a clear understanding of personal boundaries
Glancing At The Clock
Glancing at the clock or at your watch or even looking past a person who you’re speaking with will communicate disinterest or arrogance.
Frowning Or Scowling
Scowls and frowns, often unintentional and unconscious, communicate unhappiness and disagreement.